Tuesday, September 30, 2008

"Twink-twink twinkle twinkle-- stupid little star"

I've made a few choices, and in the past few days, I've seen other's choices and how their lives have been affected. I have felt 'attacked' and judged. I have also probably attacked and judged others. So, I stand here on an upside-down soapbox with a mirror in front of my face.

Sometimes its good for ALL OF US to remember, no matter the choices or situations in our lives, that there's a lesson to be learned from a simple children's story.


THE SNEETCHES

by Dr. Suess

Now the Star-bellied Sneetches had bellies with stars.
The Plain-bellied Sneetches had none upon thars.
The stars weren't so big; they were really quite small.
You would think such a thing wouldn't matter at all.
But because they had stars, all the Star-bellied Sneetches
would brag, "We're the best kind of Sneetch on the beaches."

With their snoots in the air, they would sniff and they'd snort, "
We'll have nothing to do with the plain-bellied sort."
And whenever they met some, when they were out walking,
they'd hike right on past them without even talking.

When the Star-bellied children went out to play ball,
could the Plain-bellies join in their game? Not at all!
You could only play ball if your bellies had stars,
and the Plain-bellied children had none upon thars.

When the Star-bellied Sneetches had frankfurter roasts,
or picnics or parties or marshmallow toasts,
they never invited the Plain-bellied Sneetches.
Left them out cold in the dark of the beaches.
Kept them away; never let them come near,
and that's how they treated them year after year.

Then one day, it seems, while the Plain-bellied Sneetches
were moping, just moping alone on the beaches,
sitting there, wishing their bellies had stars,
up zipped a stranger in the strangest of cars.

"My friends, " he announced in a voice clear and keen,
"My name is Sylvester McMonkey McBean.
I've heard of your troubles; I've heard you're unhappy.
But I can fix that; I'm the fix-it-up chappie.
I've come here to help you; I have what you need.
My prices are low, and I work with great speed,
and my work is one hundred per cent guaranteed."

Then quickly, Sylvester McMonkey McBean
put together a very peculiar machine.
Then he said, "You want stars like a Star-bellied Sneetch?
My friends, you can have them . . . . for three dollars each.
Just hand me your money and climb on aboard."

They clambered inside and the big machine roared.
It bonked. It clonked. It jerked. It berked.
It bopped them around, but the thing really worked.
When the Plain-bellied Sneetches popped out, they had stars!
They actually did, they had stars upon thars!

Then they yelled at the ones who had stars from the start,
"We're exactly like you; you can't tell us apart.
We're all just the same now, you snooty old smarties.
Now we can come to your frankfurter parties!"

"Good grief!" groaned the one who had stars from the first.
"We're still the best Sneetches, and they are the worst.
But how in the world will we know," they all frowned,
"if which kind is what or the other way 'round?"

Then up stepped McBean with a very sly wink, and he said,
"Things are not quite as bad as you think.
You don't know who's who, that is perfectly true.
But come with me, friends, do you know what I'll do?
I'll make you again the best Sneetches on beaches,
and all it will cost you is ten dollars eaches.

Belly stars are no longer in style, " said McBean.
"What you need is a trip through my stars-off machine.
This wondrous contraption will take off your stars,
so you won't look like Sneetches who have them on thars."

That handy machine, working very precisely,
removed all the stars from their bellies quite nicely.
Then, with snoots in the air, they paraded about.
They opened their beaks and proceeded to shout,
"We now know who's who, and there isn't a doubt,
the best kind of Sneetches are Sneetches without."

Then, of course those with stars all got frightfully mad.
To be wearing a star now was frightfully bad.
Then, of course old Sylvester McMonkey McBean
invited them into his stars-off machine.
Then, of course from then on, you can probably guess,
things really got into a horrible mess.

All the rest of the day on those wild screaming beaches,
the Fix-it-up-Chappie was fixing up Sneetches.
Off again, on again, in again, out again,
through the machine and back round about again,
still paying money, still running through,
changing their stars every minute or two,
until neither the Plain- nor the Star-bellies knew
whether this one was that one or that one was this one
or which one was what one or what one was who!

Then, when every last cent of their money was spent,
the Fix-It-Up-Chappie packed up and he went.
And he laughed as he drove in his car up the beach,
"They never will learn; no, you can't teach a Sneetch!"

But McBean was quite wrong, I'm quite happy to say,
the Sneetches got quite a bit smarter that day.
That day, they decided that Sneetches are Sneetches,
and no kind of Sneetch is the BEST on the beaches.
That day, all the Sneetches forgot about stars,
and whether they had one or not upon thars.


6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm not any of the other anonymous, but when I read what they had to say, I felt like you, that you were being attacked.
I guess what I want to say is... just continue being you !!! Dont worry about others opinions... this is after all YOUR blog, and it is YOUR life. No-one else can live it... just YOU.
Which means you have to live it the way it makes you happy, not the way it makes a few others think it should be done.
Everyone has opinions, and yours count every bit as much as everyone else.
Your living a good life, your a great mom, a good sister and your being the best anyone could ask for when it comes to your ex, and personally I think you should continue being the best you , you can be... dont worry about others opinions, that is all it is.. THEIR opinion. Liked the poem, by the way !!!

Carla McDaniel said...

hey debbie,

i have to agree with what anonymous (on this post) has to say.
this is your life, and your are living it to the best of your ability and NO ONE can fault you for that. NO ONE can ask you to do any different. it's easy to judge or think you would act differently when YOU are not the one going through the same situation or circumstance. it is soooo easy to say you would act different when you are not faced with the same decisions. and even if you were faced with the same decision and thought you were doing a better job at it than anyone else, well...isn't that what we call PRIDE and not at all how we should be reacting.
be who you are...do what you feel is best in your circumstance and YOU'RE FRIENDS who know you and what you are faced with will always be there for you.
i think we all need to be less judgmental and more willing to try to be understanding of others situations. that is 'BROTHERLY/SISTERLY kindness and the world could use more of it.
we all matter and we all have opinions, but that doesn't mean that you are wrong in your opinions.
love ya ****hug****

CrYsTaL said...

Hi!! I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your blog. I stumbled upon by friend's pages ...kinda creepy, but I find your blog inspiring and just thought I'd let you know how much I enjoy checking out your blog on my boredom workdays!

holymotherofgod said...

Ah, the internet. Such a great place to freely express ourselves and yet have others freely express themselves!!! Don't sweat the small stuff.

Anonymous said...

Hey, I was over at your house last gv night, and I felt totally at ease with EVERYONE that was there. Your home is filled with love and it's comfortable. Not weird at all.
Only you know what is right for you. And only you have all the info. For as much as it matters, I think your doing a good job, where others would have failed. And I know that it can't be easy to "put it all out there", for the world to see. However things end up, I have confidence that it will be the best it can be. You rock.
HM

The Bullknitter said...

Blogging is kindof like inviting people into your living room. Noone would come into your house and tell you that chair would be better over there, or those curtains don't match. Most people respect other people choices in face to face conversations, but sometimes the anonymity of the internet lets people step over that line of "courtesy". I agree with the other comments that it is your life and your choices and your "living room". You have never been one to worry too much about others opinions, don't start now. On the other hand, sometimes we have to take the good with the bad and you have a lot of good friends who leave caring, sweet, helpful comments. There's bound to be at least one person out there who will say "something". Don't sweat the small stuff. (quoting HMOG)