20/20 Hindsight

Things I miss!!

1. sex. Let's be serious. It'd be the first thing on your list too, after 8 years.
2. someone else to deal with the Mighties. Ew. That is SO a man's job. I do it, but I hate it.
3. Saturday morning sleep-ins. (technically, I get this every other week, so I'm not totally deprived.)
   
4. Breakfasts....pancakes, french toast, and his specialty-- poachies on toast. MMMM I do NOT make breakfast.
   
5. someone else to giggle with when the kids have temper tantrums or say funny things, or, as in the case of yesterday, someone naked full-moons the neighbours in order to smell the flowers outside.
   
6. WALKING UNTIL MIDNIGHT WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS!!! Man, I miss this.
   
7. knowing how much food to make at mealtimes. I need to get used to this 'me and three kids who eat like birds' thing. It's harder than I thought!
   
8. help with cleaning, cooking, putting kids to bed
9. 'honey, I'm home' kisses on the back of the neck
10. griping about people we mutually get annoyed with, hate, disagree with, etc.
11. someone who laughed at my little idiosyncrasies... but made me laugh at them too.
12. 8 Gothic Vagina night OUT-- where it didn't always have to be at my house. I feel bad for making the girls always trek 1/2 way to California to get here!
13. Work Christmas parties. His jobs were always the funnest Christmas parties. At least, for a stay-at-home mom, they were better than a kick in the pants. (is that a guy-only phrase? Cuz it seems to me it would be, although, lemme tell you guys out there-- kicking a girl in the pants don't feel a whole lot like a tickle-fest either!)
14. Always knowing who I would take to a dinner, a dance, a social (hahah, a social?! What the? Am I 60 years old?! Who goes to things called SOCIALS!?)
15. Someone to hold my hand through a pap smear. And don't you all dare laugh. I'm dead serious.
16. long weekends of travelling to see his family. This can and will still happen, but it's not the same.
17. Someone who understood my lack of mathematical skills, and could help me understand the issue better than ANYONE else
18. the way he smelt/ smelled (?)- and I mean that as in, "Chris smells like roses", instead of "Chris smelt the roses". Clearly. (And let's not let that sentence example delude you-- he did NOT smell like roses!)
    
19. someone else taking out the garbage.
20. cuddling, crying on a shoulder, snuggling in bed, a kiss on the forehead, a hand brushing my hair away from my face, a quick massage of the shoulders while I make dinner... the little 'touches'.
    

Things I DON'T miss!!

1. cheese and crackers all over the clean counters
2. TOTALLY clean laundry in the dirty laundry piles.. thus, laundry takes FOREVER
3. raiding the fridge 10 minutes before dinner's ready!
4. the smell of alcohol breath, the knowledge of how much money was SPENT on that alcohol, and the amount of money spent to get his car home from a 'designated driver service' because of drinking that amount of money through that alcohol. (nope, not bitter about this one)
   
5. going to bed alone, waiting for him to come home until about 4:30 AM! (again, tied to #4, but deserves it's own number for sure!)
   
6. sharing a bank account
7. going to church alone when I didn't have to
8. Freshly made bed with clean sheets, and HE gets in first and untucks all the sheets. GRRRR
9. snoring
10. someone complaining about the messy house while sitting playing video games on the computer!
11. crappy crap TV shows and movies like Blade Trinity, the Matrix, KillBill, Star Trek: Voyager, and Stargate SG1, although I kinda liked that once in a while
12. someone who doesn't know the songs to GREAT musical movies, or has never even SEEN The Sound Of Music!!! SERIOUSLY!?
13. coming home from a vacation/time away without the kids, to a VERY messy house that hasn't been touched ONCE
14. listening to someone's new business idea, or "life long dream" change with the weather. Last I checked, if it was 'life long', it shouldn't be changing.
15. Priorities that differed GREATLY from mine
16. crappy music choices where the singer is usually screaming obscenities. Not saying he needed to like some of the country I like, but we had happy mediums.
17. toenails. clipped. on the floor/table/night stand,..etc. Need I say more? GRRRRR. In all fairness, I leave hair in the drain, which REALLY bothered him (as it should), so I'd say we're even on 'discarded body part issues'.
18. Feeling like I'm intellectually inferior to the "math and science" dude. Or, being asked an english or biology question, only to be told I'm wrong when I can prove it to him. >:X (someday I may talk about this one in more detail, because, MAN, was I mad that day. OOOOHH, wait. I did--but somehow the link I posted doesn't work, so who knows where in the abyss of internet garbage it went.) You know, if I had only known that his reaction was purely guilt over his affair, that would have possibly made things WAY clearer.
    Meh. 20/20 hindsight.
19. Open drawers in the dresser.
20. The incessant "I'm not sure I wanna be married. I don't think I love you. We have nothing in common." conversations. Shoot me now.